The therapist again

The boys and their mother had an appointment with their dads "therapist" this afternoon. Their mother didn't have a ride so we agreed to furnish transportation. On the way to pick her up we had a call from the oldest boy and he said his dad wanted to know if we could bring them home. I don't talk on the phone whem I'm driving so grandma answered the phone and told him we would be glad to take them home. When they got in their session the oldest boy said grandma and grandpa are taking us home. The "therapist" told their mother she would report her to Youthville and she would get in trouble for letting the boys have contact with their grandparents not ordered by the court. The oldest boy said, " Mom had nothing to do with it. Dad made me call grandma and grandpa and asked them to take us home". Her response was, " Well if dad says it's OK then there is no problem". This woman has taken a family that need help and destroyed what was left. As bad as I dislike dealing with lawyers it appears there is no way to avoid litigation. Someone is going to have to pay for counseling to fix the mess she has made and it might as well be her. We can only hope the judge can see what she is doing and stop it.

Another case plan meeting

Last Wednesday, March 4th, we attended another case plan meeting. They call it a conference but I have been to a conference or two and that isn't one. The faces keep changing. The court service officer wasn't there but our grandsons dad's "therapist" was there for the first time and both of those were disappointing. The court service officer has been the only person in those meeting who cares about the boys except us. We were in a different room than before and instead of a conferance table there was a lot of little tables with only room for 2 or 3 people at each table. The boys dad and his "therapist" sat at one table. I couldn't tell if they were holding hands or not. This is the same "therapist" we filed a complaint against with the Behavioral Sciences Board last year. This is the same "therapist" that the boys mother was ordered to see with the boys where she told the boys that if they left their dad's home again they would not be going back to live with grandma and grandpa. Now she is going to give a report to the court. Don't you know that will be unbiased.
The youngest boy came over and sat by me before the meeting and said he was tired. I asked him what time he went to bed last night and he said, "I don't care". He laid his head down on the table during most of the meeting. The oldest boy turned 16 last month and asked the case manager if he could attend the next court hearing and she said she would check.
The "therapist" said the boys needed to spend time with other family members. This person doesn't know anything about our family and when I said the boys would love to see the rest of our family but they live in Augusta and El Dorado and with the 6 hrs. we get them twice a month there isn't time. That came as a shock to them. These are the people who were supposed to look for family the boys could be placed with before they went to that "foster home" and they didn't even know about that group.
The case manager said Youthville would be withdrawing from the case the 17th of April. They have taken all of the taxpayers money allowed for one company. it will then shift to SRS. This can't be all bad.
On another matter we had asked the counselor that we saw with the boys in order to get to see them again if she would send us a copy of her report to the court. She asked the court if that was OK and 2 of the of the 6 lawyers involved objected so they said no. That cost us $750 and we can't even get a report.

Youthville - The Secret Society

I had asked by way of our state representive for the records that the Behavorial Sciences Board had received from Youthville and the so called family therapist that they used to dismiss our complaint. I had a call this morning from the special investigator and he said he couldn't give them to me because the are Youthville's private records. That dog won't hunt. The only reason for Youthville's existence is to do work for the state. The state is the tax payers and except for the moneyYouthville can beg from private companies all their income comes from the tax payers. Therefore, all of Youthvile's records are owned by the citizens of Kansas. Why would a church organization want to keep the records of how they have treated our grandchildren a secret?

New day in court

I have been remiss in my updates but I am writing a book about this whole sordid afair and after sitting at this computer for 3 or 4 hrs. I don't want anymore that day.
Since my last entry we had the boys over to our house twice unsupervised and neither one got hurt. Isn't that amazing. The first visit was the day after Christhmas for 8 hrs. We were supposed to get them for an overnighter but their dad didn't want them to so that didn't happen. Again the abuser prevails. The next visit was Jan. 11 for 6 hrs.
We went back to court yesterday. We had a whole new team of players. The previous judge was moved to civil court, the previous case manager was fired for mishandling the boys case and our lawyer was elected to the bench. It looks like 2 of the 3 were an improvement.
The new case manager was the same song second verse. She recomended giving the boys dad full custody of them. That bunch at Youthville hasn't learned a thing. We were a little concerned about our attorney. He had been appointed by the court to replace our old one without consulting us. He appears to be an improvement over the previous 3. I'm trying to think of a good way to describe the judge so I don't take a chance on having to recant later. Our experience with the previous judge made us have serious doubts about the juvenile justice system. My guess is that's why he is in civil court now.
I don't know what the new judge's name is but for now he appears to be a big step up. We still haven't been allowed to talk to him but he did listen to out lawyer. That's a change. The boys dad didn't want us to see the boys at all. I'm going to try to quote the judge word for word. He said, " It looks like the grandparents are the only ones staying on schedule. They are the ones that stepped up when no one else wanted them". That just amazed us. That was the first time anyone had mentioned we had a part in this. He gave the boys dad the option of us having the boys 1 weekend a month or 2 Sundays. He thought he would have time to think it over but the judge said he had to decide right then. He decided on 2 Sundays a month. The boys are wanting overnighters but maybe that will come later.
One final thing. When we were going to the therapist with the boys the little one commented that he made snowflakes with paper and sissors in school. The therapist asked him if he wanted to make some there? He said yes and she got him paper, sissors and colors. While we were talking he was cutting on a piece of paper. He cut holes all over the paper. When he finished he said I'm going to let grandma take it home with her and color it. She put it in her purse and the first thing she did when we got home was color it and hang it on the door of the china cabinet. The china cabinet is all glass except the back and frame. About a month later we had company over and as they were leaving grandma said look, there's a cross on the wall. We all looked where she was pointing and sure enough there was a light in the shape of a cross about a foot from the china cabinet. It wasn't anything to get excited about. When the light over the sink was on it reflected at an angle through the paper with all the snowflakes and cast an image of a cross on the wall. That was simple right, wrong. The holes in the paper were not in the shape of a cross. The light had selected only the holes needed to make a cross. You Methodist at Youthvile need to pay attention. Gods trying to tell you something.